Being a winner isn't about proving yourself to peers, owning a surplus of crap or always being number one. Winning is finding happiness in all that you do and realizing that life is a series of tiny victories.
So how can you start feeling like a winner today? If you adopt these five simple principles you'll be able to feel like a champion no matter what life throws your way.
1. Don't Compare Your Life To Others.
The fastest way to make yourself feel less than awesome is to compare your life to someone else's. Sure their Facebook profile may seem picture perfect, but that only represents a small piece of their reality. No one broadcast their crappy situation, because those things don't make them feel better.
The grass may seem greener on the other side, but you don't know what kind of shit fertilizes it. In order to stay sane and keep your spirits high, it's best to avoid comparing yourself to anyone. Know that you are awesome and if your life isn't how you want it to be now, you have the power to change it one day at a time. Just focus on your own goals and keep moving forward.
No matter what your current situation is I am certain there are things you can appreciate today. So before you begin to talk about all you don't have, give thanks for all that you do. I promise that more of what you want will start showing up once you adopt an attitude of gratitude.
3. Love Yourself.When you wake up in the morning before you roll out of bed, before you check your phone or brew your coffee whisper to yourself "I love you". It may seem silly, but you would be surprised how much of the negative in your life is self-inflicted. Instead of putting yourself down, stop and become your own cheerleader.
When you love yourself, you become immune to negativity. It's harder for people to get under your skin and life to beat you down. You'll stand tall and know that the most important person in your universe is madly in love everything part of you. You are the most important person in the universe. Act accordingly.
4. Focus All Your Efforts on Today.Instead of focusing daily on your long term goals try and focus on the things you can do today to make them happen. Take on small yet attainable tasks every day that contribute to your ultimate victory. These tiny tasks are the small details that add up to the big picture. Without them, your chances of being discouraged when things don't seem to be happening on are high and the risk of quitting even greater.
Focusing on today and what you can do to make your life better right now is the only way you can win in this moment. When you set small tasks and accomplish them daily it gives your ego a much needed boost and allows you to ride the waves of self-motivation all the way to the top.
5. Praise Yourself for The Small Victories too!It's easy to beat ourselves up when we don't see major progress, but by now you know it is the small victories that truly count. As you begin to set micro goals and achieve them, you should allow yourself to celebrate even the smallest accomplishment. This will help keep you motivated by activating the pleasure center in your brain, giving you an incentive to continue your winning streak.
The purpose of praise is to reinforce confidence and to keep you happy and sane in-between major milestones. Besides who doesn't like a good pat on the back?
At the end of the day you have to love yourself first before you can truly start to appreciate life. Be kind to yourself. Be mindful of your thoughts. Celebrate every minute you get, because when it is over it will be the tiny moments of joy that fill you with the satisfaction of knowing that your life was an amazing game and you held the high score.